20 Ways to Improve your Sex Life...

1. Listen to Erotic Hypnosis. There a many different sessions you can listen to. Sessions that increase desire. Sessions that plant little erotic triggers. Sessions that create fun little surprises. No matter what you like you are sure to find something out on the Internet (or better yet our site).


2. Master the little things. Notice little things like hair, make up or an outfit. Bring a surprise like a favourite cookie or a funky "You're the best" card. Offer to do a little chore that has been waiting to be done.


3. Laugh. Nothing builds up personal attraction like the ability to make your partner laugh. Do something funny, wear something funny, sing aloud. Just let go of whatever is holding you back because laughter promotes letting go of reservations.


4. Work Out. Exercise means better stamina and more flexibility. Exercise means sculpting your body and making yourself more physically attractive.


5. Music. Its got rhythm to guide you, lyrics to inspire and mood to set everything right. You may be surprised how music in the background can fill in the passion and turbo charge the moment.


6. Watch a Porno. Looking for ideas or a great way to open up communication then why not watch others doing what you want to do? Want to find out if your lady is in to other guys or other women then just watch her reaction. Watching video can be a great barometer for what is safe and sane in your bedroom toy chest.


7. Learn Various Ways To Give Yourself An Orgasm. The best way to enjoy sex more is to know what you enjoy. Learning more about pace, touch and timing. There is no better teacher then taking things into your own hands.


8. Communicate. Just talk and ask what they are thinking. Explore the meaning as they describe their wildest moment. Try adding more descriptors so your partner can really be there in the moment. Try guiding your lover using only your words.


9. Play Games. Games are great ice breakers as you can take them as far as you want to go. Games are great for adding fun and a new adventures. Games are even better if you are wanting to bring in more people to your bedroom.


10. Share Fantasies. Tell your lover what really excites you and invite them to do the same. or better yet write them a surprise email with your secret confession and explain to them in detail exactly how they can get involved.


11. Positions. How many positions to you know? How many have you tried? Is there a favourite that your lover maybe wants to try again? Remember every position is just like finding a new lover. There's a different level of intimacy and a different feeling that comes with each.


12. Wear Sexxy Clothes. Why not tease your lover by taking the time to unwrap the package. No matter how many times they have seen you naked, sexxy clothes can re-light the spark of interest and intrigue.


13. Buy Sex Toys. What women doesn't love toys to warm the fire? Set out on a new adventure buy going to your local sex store and picking up a new one to take for a ride. Guys don't have to just sit and watch anymore as there is plenty of toys coming out for us too. I personally want to get my wife one of those internet controlled toys or the remote control ones where I can turn her on from across the room. Imagine the excitement when she is in the middle of talking to someone and she feels this sudden jolt of excitement turning her on.


14. Be Honest About What Turns You On And Doesn't. While you may think you are being polite by letting your lover do things that don't excite you you are best to open your mouth and say what really turns you on. Nine times out of ten they think they are doing things you want and conversely you think they are doing things they want when in fact no one is doing anything either wants. Just try guiding, leading or saying, "Hey what really excites me is.... and now let me ask what really excites you..."


15. Freshen Up. Hygiene matters even if your lover doesn't say so. Subsconsciously people pick up "desire" cues from all of their senses so spruce it up will you. A quick shower, fresh clothes a dash of smelly stuff (note: I said dash not bottle) and simply take the time to let your lover know they are worth the extra effort.


16. Sensual Massage. The erotic pleasures of massage can open the flood gates of excitement. Starting at the neck or back slowly move your way around their body soft and sensual. Add oils and creams for added pleasure but whatever you do, take your time. Massage is best savoured not rushed and listen for the wonderful purring sound (note: if they start thumping their foot you have hit the promised land.)


17. Read an Erotic Story Aloud. There are many sites where you can find great stories of seduction and arousal. Do a quick search and find a story that really turns you on. Or better yet each of you can set out on a journey to find a story to share.


18. Leave Surprise Love Notes or Love V-mail. Surprise is the ultimate pleasure crafter. What can you do to WOW your lover in written word? Can you send a letter a week in advance or how about 4-5 letters in a row? Can you write a poem and leave it where they are sure to find it? Or maybe write a very personal message across your chest.


19. Practice Rapport Techniques. Find ways to mirror your lovers actions. Stand like them, breath like them and kiss like them. Don't be cheesy but remember people are very attracted to people just like them.


20. Take Time for Yourself. The best therapy starts within. If you are not relaxed and comfortable you will communicate stress and anger. Take the time to be one with yourself so that you can let go of everything but the focus you want to give your lover.


21. Take a Bubble Bath Together. Aw come on.. who doesn't love the "Mr. Bubble" commercials? Splashing and playing will loosen up all the tension and turn the evening into a relaxed, cansual, sensual affair. Note: Candles are often a wonderful addition to the ambience.